Hi everyone. So today I feel like sharing what I’ve been
thinking of lately with you and trying to put it all into words and this is
something that I am fairly sure you all are familiar with. As you probably can
tell that I have been through so much ups and downs lately, and when it comes
to ‘downs’ or uptight situation – I feel so stressed and even more often than
not I have so much negativity in mind and that has become the biggest obstacle
for me to strive against. I just want to talk about something that really
affects every single one of us but we all react totally differently and that
is.... stress. A few days ago when I was on Facebook, I scrolled up and down
upon my timeline page and I came across an article which discusses the ways to
just avoid and go against depression. Then I had a thought that I should just
give it a go myself to write things down concerning with stress and whatever it
is I have been through that can cause me stressed.
It can be the smallest things or the biggest things but
it literally can affect every single person on this planet in a totally
different way. And it can be really difficult to know how to cope with this
case. Stress itself can be caused from anything such as work, exam, family,
financies, relationship, friends, or anything else. And sometimes, the smallest
things that might seem like nothing to anyone, to you it can really affect to
you and cause you to feel really uptight and just genuinely really stressed.
I’m personally quite sensitive when it comes to stress. I get really tight
feelings in my chest and I breathe really shallowly from my chest. And I just
cannot talk to anyone and I end up shutting myself off from everything which is
not good (maybe). I need hours or even days to be able to get back to the normal
me. As you might already know that I in the past haven’t dealt with it in the
best way. It was all like everything built up, and up, and up and up and then
it just came out to be a big thing when it really didn’t have to be in the
first place.
However, over time I have learnt to deal with it. There
are certain things that genuinely can calm me down, make me way more relaxed
and drift the stress away. These things really work for me when I’m stressed
out and I have been wanting to pass on these tips to you and I have 0 clue
whether or not it will work for you but probably you should give it a try.
Recently, I like going on youtube watching british vloggers one of which is
Niomi Smart. She’s a beauty vlogger but also likes sharing things related to
health as well. Her video that I last watched was 5 ways to de-stress and her
tips really help me to lighten my mood when I’m stressed cause I tend to have the
worst mood ever when I’m in a bad situation. Okay, without furthur a do, let’s
just get the ball rolling. Here are the tips:
1.
BREATHING
The
first thing is breathing, well of course we are all breathing if we are not
then we are a dead body (giggles). But what I mean by breathing here is when
you’re stressed out you do tend to kind of shallow or short breathe and you
don’t really breathe into the belly. That will just make matters worse. So when
you’re having a really stressful moment and you just can’t concentrate on
anything, just take a couple of minutes out, sit down or lie down, hold your hand
on your belly and close your eyes and just concentrate breathing down onto the
belly and not your chest. Within even a couple of minutes, you will notice that
you feel a lot more calm and feel like all of that tension tends to drift off
and afterwards you find that you have a clear mind and you can focus on
whatever it is youare stressed about and try to sort the problem out rather
than being really tensed and do not know what to do. And the best part about
this is you can do it wherever you are. You can do it sitting down, standing up,
at your desk or anywhere else it doesn’t really matter where you are.
2.
MUSIC
It
might sound pretty obvious but it does really help to listen to music to calm
you down. It doesn’t matter what kind of genre of music you need to listen to,
as long as it calms you down that is genuninely the one that you should listen
to. Currently, I’ve been in love with Sam Smith’s and Adele’ssongs, Sam Smith’s
songs I’ve been currently listening to are what’s in the lonely hour album
which include I’m Not The Only One, Make It To Me, Stay With Me and all that
jazz, whilst Adele’s songs are Hello and When We Were Young. I’m just so
obsessed with their voice and I love listening to every single of their song whilst
relaxing in my flat and listening to music sort of drifts off stress a bit. You
can listen to songs you like most whilst you’re sitting whilst breathing or if
you are out and about you can just pop on your headphone and enjoy listening to
calming and relaxing music. For me personally, it really does help.
3.
HOBBY
If
you have hobbies, you have to find time to just do that. It doesn’t matter what
sort of hobbies or activities you have, as long as you enjoy doing it then it’s
your thing. You should definitely do it. I never thought I actually had a hobby
until there was one thing that everytime I did it I just felt really relaxed
and it really calmed me down and I really enjoy doing it and that is reading. Just
light reading, nothing like thriller or anything. Apart from reading, I like
going out in the evening, riding a bike, trying to let my thoughts wander and just
get some fresh air. I never plan on where I am going to when I am stressed, I
just go out and have no destination but however within a couple of minutes I
feel way more relaxed. I couldn’t careless whether the night air is good or not
for my body, but when I feel stressed that is one of the ways that help me calm
down one bit. I genuinely could go the same route over and over again somewhere
close to my flat or campus.
4.
EXERCISE
I’m
not talking about going out and doing really hard workout. If that works for
you then great but personally I prefer something a bit more slow pace which is
something that gets your body moving. This could be going on a walk on your
own, or a run, or light workout. I prefer get my body moving inside my room, by
playing some workout music and just do some yoga as I have a couple of videos
of yoga that I downloaded from youtube. The best thing about exercising is that
when I’m sweating all over my body, I grab a towel and go staright to the
bathroom having a shower and I feel more relaxed and fresher afterwards. This
works really well on me.
5.
THE
LITTLE THINGS
Prioritise
sometimes throughout the day to just treat yourself. So there are a few little
things that I really like to do when I am feeling stressed or down in the
dumps. One of them is to make a cup of tea/coffee, I can tell that I am such a
coffee person. It’s so perfect to make myself a cup of hot coffee in this cold
weather nowadays. Besides, coffee itself can actually brighten up my mood. When
I feel like talking or sharing my problem or whatever it is that I’m stressed
about, I text a friend or a couple friends of mine that I can share my
stressful problems with. We just go out swinging by a coffee cafe and just having
a talk of what I want to talk cause I like to be listened to or moreover
getting a solution to what problem I’m dealing with. I could spend hours
talking to my bestfriend, and also sometimes having someone’s company is the
best way to forget and release stress. Apart from the above, I like going on
youtube. I have a couple of my favourite youtube channels that I often go on
to. Such as british vloggers (Caspar Lee, Joe Sugg, Marcus Butler, Zoella,
Niomi Smart, Jack & Finn, and many more!), when I want a laugh I go on some
comedy talk shows one of which is The Late Late show with James Corden (my
current fave British talkshow), but at times I also want some song covers and I
always go on to some cool cover singers such as Tanner Patrick and Hanna
Trigwell. Youtube contributes to lightening up my mood when I am stressed. Last
one is just having a chat with my dad talking about what I am dealing with and
he always comes up with the best solution ever. Keep in mind that it’s
completely normal to go through some uptight and stressful situations. Every
single person in this whole world gets that kind of moment. The main thing is
don’t worry it’ll be okay in the end and try to follow these tips who knows
they also work for you. Hopefully they will help you.
Thank you.
